Can Holiday Romances Work?

Can Holiday Romances Work?

When you go on holiday you tend to have a different outlook on life. Being away from the stresses and strains of everyday life leaves you feeling relaxed, both physically and mentally. This is when you might consider a holiday romance, even if the thought hadn’t previously entered your mind. A situation can be thrown your way giving you the opportunity to get closer to someone you find attractive. Whether you have a romance with a fellow holiday maker, a local to your holiday destination, or even a member of staff working near where you are visiting, it can leaving you feeling great and really boost your confidence.Initially holiday romances can seem exciting, but they also have their negative points. To you it might be a simple fling for a week or two, but to them it could mean more. It is vital that you make it clear from the start what it is you are looking for. If you simply want company for the week, tell them, ensuring they realise it ends once your holiday is over. Never imply you will meet them in the future if you have no intention of it. If it is obvious that they are keener than you are, it might be a good idea to distance yourself from them. The last thing you want on holiday is to be pestered by someone or even put under unnecessary pressure. Spend more time with the people you went on holiday with, after all it isn’t fair to abandon your friends or family on holiday the moment you meet someone.

A mistake people make on holiday, usually not deliberate or easily controlled, is falling for someone too quickly. Being in a beautiful location with sun, sea and sand can seem like you are in paradise and emotions can run high. If you feel you are falling for them and you know that there is little chance of seeing them again, then you have two choices. Either spend a lot of time getting to know them, or distance yourself from them to protect yourself from getting hurt even more when the time comes to go home. If you both agree that you would like to make an effort to meet up in the future, try to find out as much about them as you can. If they are cagey when you ask about their home life or family, then be suspicious. The last thing you want is to get your hopes up only to find out they are married or in a relationship back at home.On holiday people often act differently than being at home, especially when alcohol is involved. Being away from home without any worries in a relaxed atmosphere can put you in the mood for sleeping with someone. It is easy to feel close to someone when you are relaxed and enjoying yourself, but the situation can quickly become out of control. Sleeping with a stranger on holiday might feel right at the time, but after you will be left with feelings of guilt and regret, and possibly worry, especially if you didn’t use protection. Just because you are only on holiday for a week or two, it doesn’t mean you have to rush into sleeping with someone. You can be passionate with kisses and cuddles instead.More often than not, a holiday romance is just that, a romance you had on holiday that ended the minute you left. That isn’t to say a relationship can’t develop as a result of a holiday romance. If you are able to meet up with each other once you are home, or arrange to travel to see them again where you met them, then it is possible a relationship can develop. You just need to be aware that people can seem different on holiday than in their everyday life, mainly happier and relaxed. Meeting up with your holiday love again can be a real eye opener. You might even wonder what you saw in them, or perhaps your feelings will be even stronger towards them.If your holiday romance is with a local to the holiday destination then you should be wary. You might be that weeks choice, but for all you know they may form a friendship with someone new each week or two, knowing they will never see you again. If you are happy with that, then enjoy yourself, but don’t expect them to miss you or keep in contact with you afterwards. They will have probably found someone else by the time you have returned home, so don’t get your hopes up.

If you do find yourself in a situation where a holiday romance could happen, make sure you are in full control of your actions and don’t do something just because you are on holiday. If you wouldn’t do it at home, then don’t do it on holiday. Act responsibly and be safe. Always use protection and always make sure your fellow holiday makers know where you are at all times. There is no harm in enjoying yourself on holiday and sharing your time with someone you are attracted to and have connected with, but be realistic about the situation; the last thing you want is to have your heart broken. If you know deep down that there is very little chance of seeing them again, then be honest to yourself, and them, and simply enjoy the time to have together knowing it will end as soon as one of you goes home.

Deborah has been the head copy writer for Completely Free Dating for over 2 years offering help and advice to its members on all aspects of online dating.